Background: I (26F) married to my husband (34M) and we have a 2 year old. I had my best friend over (26F) last night for dinner. I put our toddler to sleep down for the night, my friend and I went to the living to hangout. So we girls having our girly drinks and just talking away then my friend informed me that someone from my past reached out to her, I would say he is an ex friend. My husband was in the kitchen as he was cooking up tacos for late snacking. I’m sure he can hear but he usually doesn’t get upset over my past. Recently i deactivated my social media accounts. So I saw the messages, he was claiming his love for me and how he fucked up, he knows I moved on but asked my best friend if she can at least give his number to me so he can “clear the air and find closure for both of us.” Obviously we had some drinks so we reflected on it. Most times throughout my life I didn’t need closure I just moved on and accepted for how I see it; but this was one of things I secretly longed for. My friend said to me, maybe you should hear him out but only if you need it. I told her no way, I’m married and seriously my husband and I are going to be trying for another baby in couple of weeks. My friend was agreeing with me and was venting to me how irritated she was because he giving mixed signals and leaving me into pieces. We talked about all the different events that happened (paragraphs below) and it truly was baffling. So in conclusion of that conversation, she said she would message him back to let it go and accept it for what it is.

I speak highly of my husband and mean it. My husband was never confused about me and put my needs first. Sure he sometimes makes me want to pull my hair out but I love the man and he loves me. Nothing confusing about that. My husband heard everything and asked if I was ok, I told him the truth like in the moment I had to react but there’s nothing left to say to that guy and I’m not gonna entertain him for his loss. I reassured my husband he’s all I needed. He asked if I had a good time and asked my best friend about doing double date tomorrow. Then end the night we some fun under the sheets, sorry TMI !

This morning I still felt a bit dumbfounded so I made this post and typed out my frustrations. Which felt nice. BUT, If you had the opportunity of a past relationship that lacked closure, would you want to hear it? If you had, was it worth it?

Update: I want to provide reassurance I was not gonna respond or reach to the guy. As mentioned before it felt great getting through frustrations I never addressed years ago and then since stuff came up it just dawned on me that I wasn’t crazy and how ridiculous of a pig he was. Please please don’t my context to the extreme I would never leave my husband or ruin my marriage over someone from the past. Yes I got an amazing husband and no he didn’t upset he actually understood me and today we are going out in a date. Again thank you all for your input 🙏🏽