Almost a year since M/C and age

Hello,

It's been nearly one year since we had a m/c. I already have a son who I'm really grateful for. I always wanted a second child. I'm just starting to really lose hope that it will happen and not sure about how much longer I should even think about it. I'm 38 and almost 39.. I definitely don't want to try beyond 40 and worried that even 39 is pushing it. When I found out last year that I was pregnant I was so over the moon, it felt like the stars had aligned (things at my job went awry, I was demoted and felt really meh) but now I have started a new job so it would be more risky I feel like to be pregnant now, but if it's to happen it really has to be any time from bow. To this day I still don't know why it happened as it was at 8 weeks. Since then: nothing. I just don't know whether to give up or I feel like I'm sort of giving up already of hoping. My husband won't take vitamins and smokes (a few per day never in the house) and it isn't a priority for him. When I told him last year that I was pregnant I saw him shaking his head when he was in the corridor, after I had just told him and he thought I wouldn't see. At this time he was finishing a uni course (as a mature adult) and money was tight. He now has a new job and having a second child isn't top of his list, but he equally says he will try too. He is a very good dad. . Anyway, I am rambling but I just wonder if anyone else feels this way or has been thought it, or has any advice on moving forward- even what to ask the doctor to help. Thank you if you got this far x