We have a 5-month-old daughter.

My partner went out for a “few” beers last night at the local pub with his friends. He said he would be home by midnight as that’s when the pub closes. I last heard from him at 8 pm when I asked how his night was going but had no response. I put our daughter to bed then I went to sleep around 11 pm. I woke at 12:45 am and he still wasn’t home, I texted him and asked when he was coming home as the pub closed 45 minutes ago, but had no response. 1:20 am, I tried calling but his phone was switched off, or maybe no signal as didn’t even ring. I texted again at 1:45 am asking if he was okay as I was starting to become worried by this point and couldn’t sleep. 2:45 am I tried calling again but didn’t ring. By 3:30 am I grew so concerned I texted his mum asking her not to panic but if he had gone to hers, no reason as to why he would but I wanted to rule that out. But due to the time, I didn’t expect a response.

3:45 am and he calls me, he’s drunk, slurring his words, and asking me to go into the city and pick him up, the city is 25 minutes from our house and he wanted me to disturb our 5-month-old daughter from her sleep, to go 25 minutes into town to collect him then drive 25 home. I said not, why didn’t you tell me you were going out? I have no issue with him being out but he was at a pub around the corner and he couldn’t text to tell me they had gone into town to a nightclub. For the next hour until 5 am, he called me 17 times but I fell asleep as I was so angry and had been awake for almost 4 hours worried, angry, and so many emotions.

5:30 am he arrives home. Came into the room, making so much noise with his McDonald’s wrappers. This results in our daughter waking up, but I manage to get her back to sleep. He’s so drunk he falls as well on the floor with his jeans around his ankles.

He then comes into bed properly at 6 am and tells me how much he loves me and “It was a great night”. IM TRYING SOOOOO hard not to lose my shit right now but I’m so close to breaking. He couldn’t tell me he went out and came home at 5:30 am. We have a daughter, he’s 31 years of age with responsibilities now and this is how he acts.

It’s my birthday tomorrow and I have a birthday lunch today with friends. He was staying at home with our daughter. But he’s still drunk and I can’t leave her with him when he’s in this state, so I either need to take our daughter with me or cancel my plans. I’m so upset.