Family Drama

Long story… my sister in law who has always stolen my shirts, pants, make up even underwear and my engagement ring has started drama once again. She even has taken my kids around ppl I didn’t want them around in the first place. She made a scene because I don’t “like” her Facebook stuff. She says I am being weird and basically called me jealous. And blamed my weirdness on why she doesn’t spend time with my kids??? Like she never calls for them. She hasn’t seen her nephew since he was born almost 3 months ago. My husband defended me of course (she then proceeded to disrespect him calling him names and bringing up his past). how does she expect me to have a bond with her after everything. I never bother her, I respected her I let her into my home after disrespecting time and time again. I’m super sad because I have now put my foot down and told my mother in law and everyone that she isn’t allowed at my house or near my kids if she cannot respect me and her own brother. Am I wrong?