My ex husband tried to kill himself and I am being blamed

I went through a lot with my ex husband and I talked about my little series I made on my tiktok channel about how women are expected to fix broken men. My ex husband had a lot of trauma and didn't get help for it. So I went through a lot dealing with a mentally ill husband who wouldn't get help. My series at first got love, then it started getting some hate because people felt like I was sharing things that were not my place. Like how his SA. Why I shared certain things was because I really was just trying to talk about what it is like to be with someone going through things who won't get help and now I do regret sharing some of his personal stuff. He did not take kindly to it. He did ask me to please take it down or at least the ones talking about his trauma. I asked on here if I should take it down. Most people said I should but there were a couple who said my series is probably helping another woman going through what I went through. My mom's opinion was I could have gotten my point across without sharing certain things because end of the day, he's the father of my children. I never did it to hurt him. I was just so emotionally exhausted and wanted to share my story but I wish I had gone about it differently. I also has criticismsnon how I spoke about his trauma because I joke when at inappropriate moments. It's how I cope. I understand that his story was not a place for joke. I didn't know people who watched my videos would be able to figure out who my husband was. There were a few trolls who did figure it out and chose to be gross and he was already mentally unwell and tried to take his life. Which I feel guilty for. His family (mainly his brother commented under one of the tiktoks for my series about how his brother attempted suicide and that I had no business putting his trauma out there for the world and then it turned from getting some hate, to death threats and people telling me to kill myself in the comments and in my inbox. So I deleted the whole thing. Now I have everyone blaming me. Including my oldest kid. I'm more emotionally unwell. I've spoken to my mom and she said it isn't fair to completely blame me since he's always been mentally unwell but again that I should have put his trauma out there like that. I really wish I could do everything over again but I'm not even going to try because people online hate me now. I didn't do what I did to hurt him. I wish I had kept certain things private. I felt like it was my story too because it affected our marriage but I should have kept things vague. I don't know how I'm really supposed to fix things now since his family hates me, one of my kids hates me. I don't know how he feels right now.. My mom told me this is honestly why she hates the Internet because it encourages people to put everything online which wasn't my intention. But intention vs impact I guess. Not really sure what to do next...