This is my third baby (first one was from a previous relationship but I was single once I was halfway through my pregnancy and we never spoke again, hubby and I share a 2 year old and now currently a fresh 6 day old).

I’ll be honest here, I was basically a single mom with my middle child (hubby and mines first together) for the first 3 months because we had some issues and I kicked him out when I was 20wks….im mentioning this basically so you know I’ve done the newborn stage on my own before.

So new baby here. We’ve obviously sorted out shit otherwise we wouldn’t have a third baby lol. Hubby insisted on taking 2 weeks off to as he said “be here, support me, especially with the baby at night and the older kids during the day so I don’t crash”. Sounds normal. Sounds totally fine right?

That’s not happening at all. I’m not saying I need to sit around and sleep all the time. I’m really quite active in general. But with him? By 11pm he’s snoring and gets mad when I ask him to hold the baby because the baby is fussy and I need to pee and change my under stuff. He literally gets mad and huffs and stomps and states “you know I’m tired right”. The other kids wake up right at 7:55 am daily no matter what day it is lol. I told hubby I need you to get them and get them breakfast going in the morning cause that’s a huge help and I need your help. He says yeah of course I’m dealing with the kids in the morning.

Despite him sleeping through the night like normal (I don’t wake him up to help with the newborn in the night anymore so he’s getting a full perfect sleep upstairs in the master) he all of a sudden “can’t hear the kids wake up in the morning” and tells me “I’m being unfair to him because he’s allowed to rest” and as a result sleeps in. Literally he’s sleeping from 10/11pm until 9am daily.

I’m not denying that he needs sleep too. But he doesn’t do the things to justify being home from work. Why are you taking time off to support me when you’re not supporting me?! FYI 48 hrs postpartum I was dragging garbage to the curb because my hubby didn’t do it the night before because he “went to bed”. All my hubby truly does that I can’t do myself is bathe and get the kids into bed. I appreciate the help but the fact is I need MORE HELP and I do ask for it but I don’t get the help I need.

I told him, go back to work. Go be useful and make money since you are so well rested and how I don’t need you sitting around the house sleeping doing nothing because that doesn’t support me or our kids. He was super apologetic and said he’d do better. I was like ok great I’m fine with that.

This morning? “I didn’t hear the kids wake up”

I was pissed. I looked at him just so blankly as you can hear our toddler shrieking. I’m like YOU CANT HEAR THAT. I said “if I’m going to be a single mom in this marriage say so right now because if that’s the case I will divorce you because I did not sign up to be a married single mother.”

I’m not even tired from the newborn. I’m tired of my husband.

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