There’s something wrong with my husband when he gets upset. Idk if it’s from his childhood trauma from his dad abandoning him or his mom stealing thousands from him and committing fraud, or his brother getting involved with a serious court case that could land him in prison for years…but my husband has some unresolved issues that are leaking into our marriage. There’s things he does and says that just kind of leaves me baffled sometimes.

Like today. We were joking around and I made a joke about him “cheating” and he just went off. Says that he doesn’t like it when I joke like that and he get so mad that I do it and if I say it again he’s gonna say something really fucked up and when I cry he’s gonna point his finger at me and tell me to blame myself…like wait what? lol are you kidding me? How’d it go from joking with one another to “I bet your other girlfriend doesn’t think so” to that??? I didn’t say anything else and I told him that it was a joke and he knows I joke like that. Is it every day? No. It’s like once every other week. It’s literally a joke that everyone says. But instead, he wants to flip out over nothing.

So he rants on and on. When he’s done and it’s MY turn to talk, he walks into the room next door and I’m like I’m talking here and he says he can hear me and grabs something and walks back into the room. Then starts interrupting me and when I tell him it’s not fair that he can say his shit and I can’t and he said it’s because I was saying dumb shit??? Again what??

At this point I tell him over the conversation because he obviously thinks whatever he wants and is not listening to a thing I have to say so why waste my breath. He’s mumbling shit as he’s getting ready to take our dog out to use the restroom and then he says “idk why I’m taking your dog out like a dumbass(we’ve been married for over a year and a half)”. So I said okay don’t take him, I will. And he’s putting on clothes to leave and I’m like ignoring him at this point and getting my stuff ready to do my makeup to be ready for the day. As I grab his controller to put my show on (his console is connected to our tv), he literally says “I’m gonna disconnected my console so you can’t use it to watch your shows”…and I’m like “OK what’s your problem seriously? You’re acting out over a joke and you’re not acting like yourself. Seriously what’s going on with you? All day you’ve been in a mood and now this?” He continues to unplug his console and is grabbing his stuff. I finally say “Okay. Are you gonna say anything before you leave?” And he walks out.

Not gonna lie first thing I wanted to do was throw his console out the window since technically I bought it for him for his birthday. Then I thought about doing something to his shit but then I’m like I’m too grown for all this. All I wanna do is talk to him and make him get some mental help. He has these random moments where he lets the smallest thing get to him and he gets so mad as if you crashed his car?? He’s never been violent but the way he acts is just childish.