Husband waking baby

It’s almost a nightly thing of my husband accidentally waking up our 5 month from being too loud. Whether it’s talking, walking around loudly or whatever. One time when we were having sex he literally slapped my ass so hard that it woke up our daughter from rooms away (i literally haven’t wanted to be intimate with him since). We sleep in separate rooms and our daughter sleeps in the bassinet next to me. He has never gotten up during the night to help. Not once. It sucks but that’s not my biggest complaint. It’s the fact that I’ll be ready to pump or go to sleep and he accidentally wakes her up and the way he “fixes” it is shoving her paci in her mouth and loudly walking out and doing that over and over till she’s inconsolable almost and I have to go in there to attempt to calm her which can take 1-2 hours sometimes after feeding her. He never takes his volume serious because he doesn’t have to deal with the consequences and I don’t know what to do. I’ve tried letting him deal with it and it never works. I’ve told him how she can literally hear everything he does and it doesn’t change and I think I’m going to go crazy having to fix it everytime he messes up and gets to loud doing something. Any suggestions? I’ve tried letting him do it himself