Thoughts???

I got my first apartment when I was 19. It wasn’t a luxury place but something that I could afford. My furniture came from a second hand agency for free. I saved money to get the couch cleaned before bringing it into my home. I can count on one hand how many times my mom came inside my place and sat down without hanging off the chair. She came inside my apartment maybe 4-5 times in a span of 9 years. She only lived 10 minutes away. My husband note which was my boyfriend then moved in since his lease expired and we planned to buy a house. He started noticing my mom’s behavior when she would come over. She’ll either call or text for me to come outside to give me whatever it was she came over for.

Fast forward 8 years later, we moved into a brand new home and we noticed things changing. She seemed more comfortable and would sit properly on the furniture and not as if she’s about to fall off the couch.

Well that didn’t last long. We got a house dog 2 years after moving in and the behavior changed again. She started doing the same things she did when I got my apartment. She tries to say things to make me feel like she know we’re clean but deep down it does not show that. I think she does that as a cover up. My sister actually cried to me once because my mom did her the same when she moved out.

Perfect example, my car is broke down and my sister needs a car so they’re interested in getting it fixed. My mom asked if I would be home and said she wanted to come look at the car but doesn’t need to come inside. Granite, I just told her last night that I’m expecting and definitely didn’t get the reaction I was hoping for which makes me feel like I should’ve kept my mouth shut but i was just too excited as I’m 11 weeks with my only boy (I did IVF). I have another kid via IVF.

Talking to her isn’t going to resolve anything cause she’ll just deny it all and force herself to change. I’m just in my feelings and need to vent.

How would you handle this situation?