Should we live apart?

I need some godly advice for my marriage please.

My husband and I have been married for 8 months, and we moved to a new state almost 6 months ago. I have had an extremely hard time adjusting to living here, and I have been getting very upset with him as a result. I’m feeling misunderstood, lonely, and like I’m wasting the life God gave me here.

I have struggled to make friends and have been feeling too anxious to get a new job here. Even at church, there just aren’t any other people our age or in our stage of life. My husband does his best, but we don’t get much time together because of his busy schedule. The loneliness is really taking a toll on me.

All I have ever dreamed of doing is traveling and becoming a wife and mom. So far, the wife thing is the only thing I’ve accomplished and yet hardly feel like a wife because I don’t get to spend much time with my husband. We can’t afford to travel or have a baby. His schedule will only be this busy (and with this lower pay) for a few years while he finishes his doctorate. I thought I could handle my loneliness and idleness for a few years, but it is REALLY weighing on me now. I’m starting to get depressed and anxious again (clinically diagnosed, but was doing very well before moving here). I can rarely picture a future at all anymore and often get anxious about not providing enough when I do see a future.

The only solution I can come up with is for me to move back to my mother’s house in a state 6 hours away and go back to my old job where I was also surrounded by Christian women who encouraged me. At least then, I’d be getting more encouragement AND be contributing financially so we can save more for starting a family in a few years. I’d also be at my home church where I have many friends and family who pour into me spiritually, and I feel more useful there too. Is God calling me to go back home and do that?

It would also save us some money since my husband could invest a little bit each month instead of us barely breaking even like we are now.

The only issue is that we don’t want to be so far away from each other. We would only see each other when he gets breaks from school… It seems to be so much smarter financially, and I would feel fulfilled in more ways, but it seems wrong for a married couple to live apart like that. I don’t know what to do.