My hubs wants our children to be friends with his bosses kids

My kids go to the same private school that my husband's big bosses kids go to. He's the CEO and my husband has been trying to make them all be friends. His big boss has 2 sons and a daughter. We have a son and a daughter. My daughter doesn't like his bosses daughter and my husband has been trying to force it when she is refusing and my son has given it a try and these kids are fucking rude as hell. Btw all our kids are teens/ preteens. My daughter is 12. Bosses daughter is 13 and my son is 16 and bosses sons are 14 and 17. So they're just rude assholes. Like when he had them at our house and my son was playing music and pink pony club came on. My son love Chappell Roan. He worships the ground she walks on and we've taken him to see her lives. One of the boys said "Ew turn this off. You don't like Chappell Roan do you?" He asked what's wrong with Chappell Roan. I interrupted and said nothing and one of the boys said that only "Dyke lesbian feminist" like Chappell Roan or "Twinks". So my son said he doesn't like Chappell Roan. They're just rude and extremely controlling over what they do and insult my kids interest. The daughter is bratty as hell which is why my daughter doesn't like her. She came over to my house and claimed some of my daughter's things. She tried to tell my daughter she's too fat for some of her clothes so she's taking them. My husband wants them all to be friends but these aren't friends they need.