Dating struggles

I’m 27. I’ve tried online dating and it sucks. It seems like everything moves way too fast- you go on 1 or 2 dates and the guys talk to you/ behave as if you’re already together. There’s no time to build a foundation. The physicality comes really quickly too. It’s all just like this crazy expedited process that doesn’t even feel real. I just want to meet someone in real life and get to know them as friends first and hopefully have something evolve into more for a long term romantic relationship. Is that even possible anymore? A lot of my friends don’t think that is feasible these days, but I just don’t want to compromise building a foundation of knowing & connection on a deep level over time organically.