My mom is hosting my baby shower… there’s issues

My mom says she wants to host a ladies only baby shower at her house for me. She’s providing everything. I don’t have friends except for one and I am very close with my husbands family. Anyways, she is kinda making this about her? She says inviting all her friends, celebrating that she’ll be a grandma, and on the invitations she says she’s putting on it that no gifts needed to bring because apparently that’s what her friends do? My mom is definitely a party person and outgoing but I feel like this isn’t about me and my baby celebration anymore. Also, this is my first one so I would definitely be grateful to have gifts. So, how do I talk to her about this without sounding ungrateful? Like, she and my sister even talked about getting a male dancer??? I’m confused, I’m married and expecting my first baby and it seems like she’s just trying to throw some big party for her and friends? I am however hosting one with my husband’s send of the family so just let her do what she wants?