Does anyone know a perfectionist

The criticism is high my child grandmother is a perfectionist and she will re-do everything you did so it's her way anything if you decorate the Christmas tree behind your back she will do it over if you move furniture she will move furniture rearrange flowers she will place them how she wants and it's everything from how you even clean she will show you the correct way how she likes it.

So it's living with someone who says this is how it needs to be and yet they tell you to take initiative and do things you can clean,you can cook, you can buy furniture, household items yet there is criticism of everything you do that it's not right.

So I decorated the house for my child's birthday and my mom without having told me said oh in my head I wanted the decorations in the living room that would be so much better after I had put everything up so she brought a table to the living room and said here we should decorate she was busy cooking and doing something and it was late and I put the decorations I had in the kitchen away and she comes all dramatic why did you put everything away I thought we were going to decorate the living room and I said yes you can there's the living room get some decorations and you can decorate it and she left to the store came back said you ruined the kid birthday party why did you take the decorations down and I told her she was at the store why didn't she buy some and she gets upset says I'm a monster that I have bad attitude. I spent time on her to decorate the living room waiting on her to start the party so I give her the decorations and she literally put the decorations in the kitchen just different how she wanted it and I told her it's okay you can decorate it in the living room and she said no because you are upset gaslighting me and she didn't want to sing happy birthday I asked her to sing along and it was all a mess

Waiting until she has time to do things and things her way I'm sick of it. How can I explain that she's a perfectionist when you tell someone they are perfect they think it's a compliment boost ego is there a way to explain to her what a perfectionist is without her hearing the words she wants everything to be perfect otherwise it will go to her head and she will think she's perfect.