My husband woke me up at 2am on my one night ‘off’ and I can’t stop fuming

I’m on ‘night duty’ every week night. So 5 days/week. I look forward to Friday night an insane amount because LO is teething and going through a phase where he wakes up every 1.5 hours and I desperately need a long stretch of sleep. This past week my husband has been doing random stuff that just makes me so annoyed, like he ‘helped’ me by putting our baby’s laundry away when I asked him to, but instead of folding anything he rolled each thing into a ball and put everything in the wrong place so I had to pull it all out and re do it. Dumb stuff like that.

I planned a special day for my husband tomorrow, I was going to make him his favorite breakfast, take LO in the morning to let him sleep in, and take on most childcare duties so he can work in his garden or do whatever he wants and have his family visit again (for the 5th weekend in a row). It’s a big deal bc I’m a SAHM and the weekend is usually my break bc he’s home to help watch LO so I can meal prep and do heavier cleaning that I can’t do with LO.

I usually go to bed at 730pso I can get as much sleep as possible knowing I’ll be up a lot overnight. Today I pumped/prepared a bottle, stayed up until 10pm doing my whole skincare routine, face mask, watching tv, really having a good night knowing I’d be sleeping through the night. I left the bottle for my husband and told him it would be cold and that’s fine for LO. He’a 7 months.

My husband woke me up at 2am to tell me LO was crying and that he is going to warm up his bottle. The rage I felt was instant. Why wake me up? Why 😭 He said he woke me up so I had the option to nurse LO. That was the point of the bottle 😭 The bottle was chilly bc I left it chilled bc LO drinks it at whatever temperature and I needed to leave it in the bedroom so he wouldn’t wake me up by getting it from the fridge at 2am (our living room where I’m sleeping is attached to the kitchen). I obviously couldn’t just lay there knowing LO was crying waiting for his bottle while my husband heated it up. So I nursed him for 15 mins while my husband went back to sleep.

So yep now I’m just wide awake. And to make it worse my husband left the bottle in the kitchen not on ice or anything and his plan was to come back upstairs, waking me up again, and give him the bottle for his next feeding at 5am.