Seeking advice on marriage issue

Hey all,

Sorry, this might be long.

My husband recently decided to separate from me. We’ve been together 2 years.

Here’s a brief backstory.

I basically moved to Canada to be with him (from the UK). I left my job, my friends and family (who are actually in my home country - Croatia). We eloped and we only told our closest people.

We lived together, got a dog together etc. of course, there were arguments and discussions throughout the relationship. Nothing out of the ordinary.

At the start of 2023, we’d made a decision to move abroad for a year. We were fed up of paying ridiculous rent and we just weren’t enjoying our lifestyle and we wanted to travel and work remotely. He suggested Croatia (btw - to this point he still hasn’t met any of my family), and I of course said yes and was looking forward to seeing ny family again and having them finally meet my husband.

We had planned everything out, and even our current jobs agreed to have us work remotely! It was all going as planned.

Then one day, out of nowhere, he picked me up from work and said he doesn’t wanna go to Croatia and he wants to separate. I’m shook. It took me weeks to accept this and I still don’t feel like myself. We only had 10 days left in our old apartment at that point and I had nowhere to go. He just went to his family and I was forced to live with a roommate I barely knew.

He said he wanted to go no contact for a while. I had no input whatsoever and it felt like he was calling all the shots. I was confused.

His reasoning was: my anxiety and childhood trauma was getting passed onto him too much and it made him uncomfortable to be around me. He said the fact he thinks I have unresolved issues from the past is making him unhappy.

Don’t get me wrong, I want to fix anything that causes him pain, but he was the one to suggest going abroad together and then suddenly drops this bomb on me? Why couldn’t we go to couples therapy or something while he was feeling overwhelmed?

It’s been almost 2 months now and not much progress has been made. I’ve found my own flat and he took a new job in another city so it’s not looking promising. He interviewed for this job during our planning for Croatia so it looks like he was never even serious about it.

What hurt me the most is the fact this man promised me I’d never be alone no matter what. I don’t believe this reaction was okay, after all we are married and made vows to each other.

He left me with 0 support system. I have our dog and a full time job. I had no break and I couldn’t just drive to my family for a month like he did. He also makes double the money I make and I’m finding it hard to make ends meet, while he’s not paying any rent at home or towards our dog.

We’ve been in minimal contact in the last week. We agreed to try marriage counselling. But this whole this is really rubbing me the wrong way. I feel like I’ve done something horrible like cheating and I didn’t 😐

I just need a different perspective. I’m completely alone and lost right now.

If you’ve read this far thank you lol.

EDIT: I haven’t left the country. I didn’t explain that properly. He cancelled our move and we both stayed in Canada.