Did anyone else let their toddler “cry it out” when transitioning them to sleep in their own room?

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Looking for tips or advice, did anyone ever let their toddler “cry it out” when transitioning them to sleeping in their own room? I have a 2 year old who sleeps in bed with me and I’m pregnant so I really want him sleeping in his room by the time baby comes. He will sometimes sleep in his pack n play in my room, but he just cries all night reaching for me until I put him back in bed with me because he can see me. It’s either put him back in my bed or listen to him cry all night. Should I just try putting him in his room tonight and see how he does? And if he cries should I let him or go get him? (I have a 360 camera in his room so I will be able to see him on my phone) or should I let him fall asleep in my bed then move him to his room? Everyone in my family is saying to put him in his room and let him “cry it out” and that he will eventually get used to it but I have never done the CIO method and would feel terrible to let him cry. Should I sleep in his room with him for the first couple nights? Should I allow him his tablet? Should I make it completely dark or leave a lamp on for him? He’s scared of the dark. I feel so bad because I love cosleeping with him and he sleeps so well in my bed but it’s almost time for him to get used to sleeping in another bed by himself and he just cries in my room🥺

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Allowing a tablet in bed would be a horrible habit to form and wouldn't be helpful I'm getting his brain unstimulated enough to sleep. I also strongly am against cryo it out for many obvious reasons but can Google the research on that as well. It may be a difficult transition of you have to have them sleep alone , but going in and reassuring him that he is safe and you are here if he needs you when he cries is important. You will probably have some sleepless nights or may have to get up a lot to reassure him.

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We didn’t do cry it out as such. We did a form of sleep training. Own room from 6 months so don’t know if it makes a difference trying it from 2 years. We did, relax for an hour before bed, dim lighting etc no tv.. put in own bed, let cry for 2 minutes, go in and reassure with a hand on head or tummy but don’t pick up and then leave, let cry 4 minutes.. go back in and reassure, no picking up, repeat with increments up to say 8 minutes but it never got that far. He always calmed down and he got the hang of it so quickly, within a week I’d say. He’s now 2 and he will lay in his cot in his room by himself for even an hour before he goes to sleep, no crying, super relaxed and just cuddles his teddy until he falls asleep

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Ferber method, yes. First couple days were hard but she caught on fast and learned to get herself back to sleep on her own which was important for her to learn I felt! It was definitely worth it

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Try the Ferver sleep training method or the Chair Method, i would suggest against the cry it out method bc all baby wants to feel is safe and reassured by momma!

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I would start by getting him used to sleeping in his own space in your room, ie the pack and play. Then once he's good with that, slowly move the pack n play to towards the door. Then after that make the full room transition. Also if he's still napping you can start doing naps in his room. These incremental changes are how I got all my babies into their own space and then their own rooms. Some crying is to be expected during the transition. But in regards to putting him in his room cold turkey and crying it out, I think that'd be cruel.

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I gave my son when he was two years old about five min to cry it out usually he'd fall asleep if he didn't I'd go in and sit with him

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Cio is about a child's ability to self regulate emotions so when child transitions easily it's because they are confident there's a lot on this topic on the national pediatric physiatry and neurodevelopmental web site

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Just 15 min tops. Then you go in every 15 min. Only takes a couple times

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Just now reading the comments, it won’t let me edit the post and I’m not gonna reply to individual comments but just wanted to clarify and say I posted this and feel like some of y’all are either misreading thinking I wanted to do CIO or maybe I worded this post wrong😅 I didn’t say anywhere that I was going to let him cry, I am all against crying it out and mentioned I have never done CIO method and would feel terrible to let him cry. Maybe I could have worded differently but when I asked if he started crying should I let him or go get him, all I meant was should I immediately go get him or wait a minute before going in to check on him.. I only made this post asking if anyone else ACTUALLY let their kids “cry it out” when transitioning because everyone in my family is telling me to let him but I’m looking for other alternatives since I don’t believe that’s right. I would never put my 2 year old in a bedroom and just let him cry all night, that would be absolutely terrible for me to do.

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Kids who "cry it out" experience the same amount of stress when they're not crying it out, they just don't show it. Why? Because they know you won't be there for them. They're also the same kids who later on in life experience depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts. So ... Do whatever you think is best, but you can do your own research based on science.

Did anyone else let their toddler “cry it out” when transitioning them to sleep in their own room?

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