Is my husband not attracted to me?

Hey y’all..

I’m struggling..

here lately my husband isn’t “wanting” to have sex. I say wanting bc it’s in his mind, his body “does?” I guess you could say because his 🍆 will get hard. It’s like mentally he’s not there. He says he DOES want to, just not “all the time” like I want too. And I’m not sure if I just REALLY WANT TO, or it’s the fact he’s doesn’t want it it’s making me want him more? Does that make sense? Should I back off and let him come on to me?

Also might I add we’re in our mid 20’s.

He works long hours somedays, an active job—if you will. So he could be tired.

I’ve tried switching things up to make it more exciting and he will have sex with me but I feel as if he’s doing it to shut me up, I feel so weird typing this bc usually it’s the woman that doesn’t “want it”.

I can’t help but feel like it’s me, and my mind is spiraling thinking the worst as in, “it’s me” or “my 🐱 is not good enough” sounds silly but it’s taking a tole on me.

He’s considered going to the doctor bc he thinks it’s a testosterone problem bc he is fatigued all the time and some other symptoms of low T.

But he’s kinda embarrassed to go to the dr, being as were young and he doesn’t know exactly what to say…

IF it is his T, what can we try at home, or OTC, to help before we go to the dr.

OR is he lying and it’s me, not his hormones and doesn’t want to hurt my feelings…

Help…