Need married ladies input....

I dont even know where to start :'( husband and i have been married 7 years. The only trips weve taken through out this marriage are to visit family, as we live out of state. Its been a long lonely road honestly. Very lonely. As the years go by it seems husband wants to climb the ladder to success giving his job 120% and coming home depleted and tired and dismissive. When trying to talk about more quality time together he throws a fit about home chores and other things that need to be done and we "cant just hang out were adults not children" im so sad all the time. I dont know him anymore. Intimacy is awkward because its rare. And as of lately he started working saturdays too. He said it was only going to last 6 weeks and the other day said "oh itll be like this for atleast a few more months" and when i get upset about nevet seeing him anymore he leaves the room. And recently started talking about traveling out of town again for work. I am in pieces. I dont know how much longer i can go. Hes a great financial provider but thats probably it. As a husband, lover and friend, those things dont exist anymore. And several times hes said he will always need to choose his job to get ahead for us. But i see successful couples still carve out time for quality time and small together trips and i see it possible to balance somewhat a work / home life. Not us tho. Its not a priority to connect or go outside the home. And when ee do eat out we end up fighting about something. When i do mess up or say thr wrong thing or any small mishap at home he turns it into a lesson vs. Showing grace and just letting things go. Im so hurt because i feel constantly like im last on his priority list. And let me say we are no where near struggling financially. I have a small home business and he has an amazing career. But its never enough. Im so thankful for our lifestyle and everything hes provided but at what cost to me? I feel like im losing my husband. I play it off cool. And im fine and well get through it but my spirit is so low all the time. This is the loneliest time of my life. I dont have family in the state and now i feel like i dont even havr a husband. I try to be understanding towards his career and works hours and everything that hes striving for but it seems like everytime something needs to be handled at work hes first to volunteer. And when i ask about taking a small trip together or something hell dismiss it usually and say oh i cant now huge deadlines at work or something or other. Sometimes my mind even goes as far as thinking maybe hes having an afair? We are not intimate physically, emotionally or spiritually together. And i feel like im dying inside....yall....please help. Am i crazy? Over the years ive tried spicing things up, approaching communications delicately and from all kinds of angles. Even tho i work full time too i make sure theres dinner almost daily, laundrys done, home cleaned and whatever els to possibly relieve some of his burdens. And im just at my wits end. I dont know how much longer i can go....physically & emotionally i am exhausted. Absolutely sick and tired of this shit