Is this a normal response?

It's incredibly windy today, I had to get up at 4am to close some doors that were slamming open and shut due to the wind.

It's a school holiday and I am working, my partner took leave to have the kids. I don't have enough off days because I worked less hours the last 2 years to take care of the kids.

So it's now 6:30am and I'm getting up for work.

The wind is super noisy and I thought that it would be best to shut the bedroom window and the bedroom shutter.

My partner wakes up and asks me very accusatory "Why are you taking away my fresh air?" It was kinda agressive.

Then he complained about having to sleep with a duvet ad he thinks that it's too warm to sleep with a duvet and that I am getting up so that it doesn't affect me if it's still open etc...

So anyway, I opened the window and shutter a bit and left the bedroom.

Now I feel like his response was over the top. And I get that it could be because he was still half asleep but he's been reacting like that a lot. Like when something doesn't go his way it is *someone* (usually me) doing him wrong or purposely working against him.

It's so very exhausting.

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In a weak moment, he's told me that he often knows he's making a fuss for nothing or he's being an asshole, but he doesn't really care because he just wants to be right or wants to get what he wants.

I've been watching doctor Ramani a lot and for me that seems very narcissistic. A lot of the things he's told me about how he feels sound like he's a narcissist. I've also identified his cycles for myself.

He doesn't think he's a narcissist, but he hasn't done any research either, he just doesn't like how negative it sounds.

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Maybe look into it if you don't know. It's not a tv show.

What I meant is that I have been taking so much shit from him, like him faking a heart attack, to actually injuring himself purposely, to lying to everyone, to stealing from me, to telling me I'm worthless and he's the greatest because no other man would do xyz (basic stuff like assembling a meal) So I don't know what normal interactions are anymore AND I am used to him being aggressive with me all the time (on and off but the most ridiculous reasons ever first)