Husband telling son not to cry

So short story long my husband and I have been getting into some not very heated arguments here lately because I can say something very simple without a tone or anything just stating something that doesn’t agree with his view and he gets mad and blames me saying that I am mad.

Today, my 11 month old son was crying and in a tantrum because he was trying to grab our cell phones and we don’t let him play with them mainly because they have chipped screens and glass could fall out. My husband is trying to calm him down and says you can’t play with stuff that’s not yours and you can’t get the phones. Which is fine. But he puts him in his play pen and says “you can’t keep crying because you can’t play with something that’s not yours, you’re a boy”. And so all I said was what does being a boy have to do with it he’s a baby? And we continue to go back and forth about it and my final point was that if we have a girl in the future they will be treated the same (as kids especially). And he proceeds to “well I was talking to my son it had nothing to do with you and all I said was he’s a boy I don’t see how that’s wrong” he doesn’t see where I’m saying that him saying that is implying that if we have girls they won’t be treated the same. And now he’s mad at me for “always starting stuff” when the only thing I said was what does being a boy have to do with it? Any thoughts? What would you do?