If you’ve got time, it’s long but I need help

If you can hang in here with me I’ll try to keep it short. I just really need advice from other unbiased mature adults….

So to start my SO and I have very hard personalities, he’s a man that has an actual back bone and doesn’t let me just plow over him, and I’m the same for him, probably a little more stubborn then he prefers but he needs it all the same. I LOVE this man… okay we met in 2019, two weeks after we met my dream property that I could actually afford came to market and I bought it. I mean why wouldn’t I I’d only known this man for 2w… when we met he was leasing 60acres and had about 70 head of cattle on it, I at the time had 4 dogs. He ends up loosing the leaded ground has to cut his herd down to about 30 cows and has them in 3 different locations, and my dog program has grown and currently I have 6 dogs (Well cut out all the middle stuff) we now have 2 kids, we have lived at my house for a while then his parents who were living on his farm moved to FL so we moved to his farm, which is an hour away, we’ve lived here at his farm for nearly 2years and I HATE it there, it’s just not my “HOME” I have made sacrifice after sacrifice for this man so he can keep his herd of cows. I drive an hour to work every day, am basically a single parent bc after work he puts 3-4 hours into feeding the cows at the various properties. He gets home so late he only has time to play with the older kid and then it’s bedtime. He has more cows than he can really afford like every single dollar he makes goes into the cows with next to no return. He doesn’t contribute to the kids financially, doesn’t buy groceries, anything house hold consumption like NOTHING. I can afford my dogs and never ask him for money or really anything from him.

Okay so my mental health is really past done being at his farm, I found a farm that we could buy and condense all of our things together to because my property is good for the dogs but not cows and his is good for the cows but not dogs… anyway we didn’t get the farm because his farm shows such an astonishing loss bank said no way in hell with that loss.

Anyway he’s completely against moving back to my property or willing to show me the same sacrifices I’ve shown him. I don’t want to “leave him” but I also cannot stay there. But at the same time he’s not willing to make sacrifices to be with me?

Any advice/ words of encouragement/ idk what I’m looking for, maybe approval from people I don’t know that it is okay to move back and if he’s unwilling that’s on him? Idk so much turmoil!

Help me.