Married to a spender

So my husband works and I’m a SAHM. He handles to finances and I handle to day to day stuff. We JUST found out that we’re expecting another baby. I’m super excited! Today he sat me down and told me that he has a problem with spending. He showed me that he’s put 10K on a card in his name over the last 3 years. We can absolutely afford paying it down but it will take a little time but it isn’t unmanageable. I’m upset because I’m always double checking with him on purchases even if it’s me buying a $15 bra on Amazon or taking a $60 CPR class for future knowledge to help our kids or someone else.

He says that it happened when we had unexpected expenses like tires for the car or when our dog (deceased) was having end of life trouble. I understand that but that all wasn’t 10K worth. So I looked on the card statements. There’s times where he bought stuff off of eBay when we were between paychecks. Couple hundred dollars worth a month. It was all stuff like old VHS tapes people we’re selling that had old school commercials. Or stupid crap like that. Ridiculous. When I asked him about it when I’d get the mail he said that it was “a few bucks”. So he was clearly downplaying it. Now he’s telling me that we need to throw all our extra money at the card. Which I completely agree but he tells me this now? He wants to put a grand towards it every month and after I sat down with the number there’s no way. He wants it paid off before this baby comes. HOW?! I’m gonna have to get a job to help of course. This is so stressful. It’s gonna have to be a night or weekend job. I can’t believe he kept it from me. I don’t know how I’m trust him in the future.