How do I tell him? I’ve known for 3 days

Question

I’m 22 and he is 23 we’ve been together for 3 and a half years. He doesn’t want another kid right now and he has a 5 year old. I just found out on Thursday that I’m pregnant and am scared how he’s going to react. I had gotten pregnant about a year ago and ended up terminating because of how he reacted and treated me and I thought it would make things better but it killed me mentally and I can’t go though that again. We agreed when we did that, that if I got pregnant again before we were ready that I wasn’t going to terminate again. But I’m just scared because I know he’s already stressed cause of court for the child he has now that I don’t think he’s going to have a good reaction to me being pregnant. Also we still live with family cause we can’t afford to be in our own. Any advice would be very helpful thanks in advance

Answer

There’s a lot to unpack here. 
You should NEVER be afraid to talk to your partner. You’re concern is partly due to how he treated you before, that isn’t normal. Your partner should not be someone you fear. 
Stress of court over his first child? That seems like another red flag. 
If you’re not using birth control, both of you know the risk. He cannot be surprised and if he is- again- red flag. 
Talk to your partner but ultimately you need to do what’s best for you. Either way, I’d be rethinking this relationship.

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If he didn’t want you to get pregnant again, he should have been taking every precaution to prevent that from happening. He is just as much responsible for this pregnancy as you are. If you are worried he may react poorly, I would suggest asking a trusted friend or family member to be present when you tell him. And if you do not want to terminate this time, that decision is yours to make. If he is adamant that you don’t carry out this pregnancy, you guys will have to have a discussion about your decision and the relationship moving forward. I would also suggest making living arrangements and considering how you will support yourself and your baby on your own. You said you live with family, but didn’t specify if it’s your family or his - so if ending the relationship will result in you no longer having a place to stay, I think it would be wise to have a back up plan before you tell him the news. 
This is a tough situation to be in and I’m sorry you’re going through this. Wishing you all the best!

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Tell him you’re pregnant, be prepared to get screamed at, then also be prepared to be a struggling low income single mom. Good luck

How do I tell him? I’ve known for 3 days

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