Masturbating after sex

I am married for year and just us a baby in the summer. The sex before marriage was great but after having kids it’s change. Not that my husband change because he is the same but my attitude towards him has change. We would have sex and I just can’t climax but before we start my husband just doesn’t foreplay and if he does he doesn’t touch me at all but if it’s the other way around I’m always doing him good. I mean oral, being touchy everything… so since I can’t have the same feeling like him and I don’t climax I take care of the business myself. This has brought me down and to the point into I’ve had fights with my husband about my sexual needs. The only solution to our problems is that he do it first and I secretly take care of myself in the bathroom. Idk if it’s normal for some or if it’s just me. Just needed to vent since I don’t tell no one about this. Another thing I got the IUD and he complains about it that when I’m on top he feels them so i just summit into want he just wants to do and the rest I would just do it myself.

Any advice? I’ve tried talking to him and no solution whatsoever and the foreplay well he just doesn’t like to lick me or touch me down there except my boobs.

🥀update! Well I have talked to him about the issue and addressed him that it has become a problem between us that I won’t be here for long as to handle this, he just said he knows what he is doing and he will try to do better for me but I know this won’t happen because it’s been the same for years.

Thank you for listening 🙏