Relationship red flag/SA?

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So I have some questions. I am in a relationship and things are going well. Until it comes time for sex or just fooling around. I get very nervous and we haven’t been together very long. But last night, I was staying with him and he kept grabbing at me and aggressively touching me. He also kept putting his hand down my pants when I’d say no and stuff. Then he’d just play it off like he’s joking. Am I being dramatic? Should I just sleep with him and get it over with? Any and all advice welcome.

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Absolutely not. No means no period. Anything other than an enthusiastic yes means no. That means don't put your hands down my pants as a "joke" it's not a joke. This guy absolutely doesn't respect you AT ALL. Run in the other direction. Massive major glaring red flags everywhere.

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No, don’t do anything you aren’t comfortable with. He needs to respect your no.

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No, you should walk away and find someone who respects you

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Leave please. This sounds super creepy. Good loving parents wouldn’t want their child to be going through this by a dirtbag who feels entitled to YOUR body.

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I dont want to project my personal experience but run. My ex lacked sexual discipline and respect. He ended forcing himself on me against my will. It was terrifying experience and i wished i had payed attention to the red flags similar to what you described. Don't just sleep with someone out of pressure. No one deserves to have their choice taken from them. It doesn't sound like this person deserves you.

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This is not okay. 
If you say no anything beyond that is legally considered sexual assault, even if you’re in a relationship.
Consent needs to be given wholeheartedly by you.
And even if you do begin to fool around but no longer want to and you tell him no, then it needs to stop. 
You have the right to say what happens with your body and the right to feel safe in a relationship. His behaviour is not safe. I hope you are okay.

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You should tell him that you're uncomfortable and if he likes you he can wate till you're ok with have sex

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No means no unless you told him it was a fantasy of yours or a turn on to be grabbed at. No tea no shade for your kink but if it’s not. That’s very disrespectful and a bigggg red flag.

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Pushing through a boundary you have made clear is not a joke, it is called abuse. It means he has no respect for you. One thing important to learn is to juge people on their actions, not their word. 
You never owe someone sex. At any time, with or without cloths, fooling around or just kissing, one has the right to say no and be respected. 
What you are describing is sexual abuse.

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Relationship red flag/SA?

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