Pediatrician making me feel bad

So I took my daughter in for a follow up appt - nothing really was needed they just wanted a follow up appt scheduled for constipation issues she had last month. All is totally fine now

Anyway backstory, this spring she had her 2.5 year appt. Based on those questionnaires they always do (which btw I had to say “no” to a lot of the questions they ask bc I’ve never tried them with her), my 2.5 year old was a little behind on some fine motor skills so they recommended occupational therapy. That was this last spring.

We took her to an occupational therapist to get evaluated in spring. They said she scored in normal range, but right at the end of normal. But they also said they could tell she should’ve scored higher on a few of the tests, bc she was getting timed for a lot and she would start cheering for herself or dancing around adding a lot of time, so considering that they said they didn’t feel she needed occupational therapy. So we didn’t do it. They did say if we feel like in 6 months we want her re-evaluated we could do that, but it’s up to us, that’s just what they tell anyone who didn’t exactly qualify they said

At her 3 year dr appt (this fall), the dr asked if we got her re-evaluated and I said no and explained the situation. I thought that was that.

Well like I said, today I just took her in for a follow up appt on a random issue and the dr is asking if I took her in to be re-evaluated yet.. I was surprised and honestly forgot we even discussed it at the last appt til then. I never said I was gonna do that. I told her again I didn’t really feel it was necessary so we didn’t. I just feel like she was judging my decision.

My daughter already has 2 teachers, a speech teacher and a teacher who does general development delay (due to her being in speech therapy, once she hits 3, all kids in the program get those 2 types of teachers.) Which honestly these teachers have been no help. Her teachers literally sit and watch her play the whole time while we sit there too, and the other talks to me the whole time about random things and barely interacts with my daughter. It’s so weird to me. Her teacher last year when she was 2 helped a decent amount. But the teachers this year have not been helpful. My daughters progressed a ton tho with her speech and def catching up, but I can tell that’s just the stage she’s at now - not like these teachers have helped us with any of that

I am also pregnant and a high risk pregnancy and I work full time and these appts every week are a lot with my work already along with my dr appts, and we have 1 car, so everything has to be arranged with my husbands schedule that changes weekly, so I don’t want to add another appt if I don’t feel like it’s super necessary.. and like I said, honestly her other teachers have not been helpful so I just don’t want another unnecessary appt. Also she’s about to start preschool too

Maybe I’m overthinking this, but now I’m questioning what the right thing to do is after her dr visit :( my husband is adamant he doesn’t feel it’s necessary and she’s improving on everything all the time. I honestly feel like he’s right but idk her drs reaction made me feel weird.. Any advice would be helpful