Is there hope ?

I’ve been with my bf on and off for 3 years. We’ve been very rocky recently and we went to couples therapy the other day. The therapist basically said we have a dis functional relationship but we can either stay together and fix it or leave. After that my bf said he had a lot to think about. The next day he told me he wants to move on.

We have a lot of history, we pretty much had a family. He has a daughter im very involved in. We both cried and he said he’ll definitely miss me. In the past we’ve tried to take space apart but I failed miserably. In the past he would tell me that maybe he just needs me to be gone to realize what he’s missing. And I KNOW people will say that’s not true, but I know sometimes you have to grow apart to find each other again.

As much as I hate it, I told him I do think I have to leave in order for anything to happen. Because being here with him is making us be in a toxic cycle. I told him I think that things can be fixed, but I think we need to work on ourselves first before being better for us. And that I hope that by me being gone, he’ll realize that we can fix things and be together.

A while ago when he asked for space he suggested we date but live apart. I hated that idea since I’ve been living with him for a while. But now I’m looking at apartments I can move into soon. I told him I think that if we do miraculously get back together, it would be good for us to live apart and have our own space and he agreed.

I guess I just want to know if there is hope for us. We’re connected to the hip and know everything about each other. We both know we’re going to miss each other and we both care for each other so much. I’m scared to walk away with the chance of never coming back. And I’m scared to get an apartment on my own and feel so lonely. But once again, I’m not sure if space will bring us closer together?