Many know my story husband emotional cheated on me with my sister …

So I have spoke to multiple different therapists and all say the same thing. My husband and I have been doing marriage counseling. It has been helping us. I have a harder time with the fact my sister did this honestly. I at first was more hurt by my husband and don’t get me wrong I still am hurt by him. Because I trusted him not her. I didn’t trust her or talk to her about my life because of her extreme jealousy from the moment my now husband came into my life even though she had been with her then fiancé for 4.5 years. She would say she wished her man was like mine etc. she would constantly say ew to the nice romantic sweet things we would do with each other and for each other. Even her bf would make eyes at her when they would see my husband and I being sweet to each other. (She broke her engagement in 2018) then got back with the same guy a year later. Still with him but bf gf not fiancé. Well those of you who know the story. It started when my first son was born last year. It triggered childhood trauma in my husband (his mother treats him blatantly different than his twin brother who is the golden child). The day our first son was born he called his mother and said it’s a boy and the name and she said in a not nice way not liking the name. She went to the hospital for her other son’s children’s birth and didn’t come for our first born or now second born who was born this august. Her other grandsons got cribs and my sons got minimal diapers wipes etc.. the other grandsons get legoland tickets for Christmas and my sons get a toy. He felt last year I didn’t have time for him and knew my sister was always texting me bored at her job (I’m a

Sahm) . But he also knew she wasn’t nice to me through all the moments with him. She was mad and jealous and didn’t even want me pregnant before I got pregnant she would ask if I got my period or have cramps and if I said I have to tell you something (it would be something silly) she would angrily ask “what?! Are you pregnant?!”

But for a sister to do this to a sister. I would never do this to any woman let alone a sister. And we obviously know she hasn’t been happy with her bf for years because nobody would do this also if they were in love and happy with their person.

My parents had bad sibling issues since 2020 and my parents have been hurting because of it and now their daughters are not talking because of her actions. I feel bad for my parents. And I do feel bad for her now she has no relationship with her nephew and new nephew she never met. Mom last year didn’t want me confronting her just my husband because she was trying to protect my dad because he was having a hard time dealing with his sadness about his and my mom sibling betrayal. Well my husband swore he would stop talking to her and he didn’t stop and he even told her I was upset and found out and she continued. I wish I would I have confronted her but I listened to my mom. To protect my dad.

Well they continued until I found out again this past February. I did talk for the millionth time to her last year after I found out I just didn’t tell her I found out but told her she has hurt me so much for so long through all my moments. And she said she would be better through my next moments like my baby’s baptism and next pregnancy whenever that was (which she continued talking to him during my second pregnancy until

I found out). I put her as godmother because for my father and family to make sure everyone still thought all was great and we were bff still. Had to

Keep it all delusional even though my dad knew she wasn’t nice to me through everything he wanted to believe we were still bff like I hen we were little. She even came over one day I was sick and pregnant my mother sent her even though I didn’t want her over and she laughed at my vows on my bedroom wall and how my husband vows were shorter than mine and how “funny it is” and then I said her perfume was really strong and smelled bad and she got mad at me and said “oh no what will Chris think?!” Meaning my husband….

All therapists say it’s not excusable for my husband obviously but reasonable to understand where it came from. Hers she said she was just naive and being nice felt bad for him and had a bond. They just say that she was just purely jealous. She apparently is in a dark place my parents say and writes letters to God and my parents.

I have been hurt by her for years. She was mean through my dating him, engagement, wedding dress shopping, wedding planning, wedding, before pregnant, then during pregnancy, then after she and my husband had inappropriate secret correspondence.

This has been a very hard year and should have been so joyous overall because I had my second baby.

Just venting because it’s the holidays and it’s been hard for me because i did so much for my family and being anxious around her knowing what she did and thought my husband stopped it and last Christmas we told my family we were pregnant again with second and she was very quiet after we announced it and so was her bf. Then two months later found out they continued talking even after I found out first time around June of last year.

Just a lot.

Just venting. Don’t need replies necessarily.

And definitely not mean comments please. It’s been a lot for me. I feel so blessed with my babies and yes it’s great my husband and I are working it out. I don’t know.

Thanks. Merry Christmas and happy holidays everyone. God bless.