Listen, I know I have a sick twisted double standard brain and I go in waves of working on myself and then giving up because I am who I am but here’s the tea… I have been with my husband for 16 years. We got pregnant in high school and married when we graduated. I have never put on a character for him I have been MYSELF since hour 1. I told him I’m spoiled, I love when people do me favors and I work hard so I expect my husband to work just as hard. When we met he was on the verge of dropping out of school he had been ditching and I was the opposite I was a theater kid with a 4.0 GPA. I told him if he wanted to date me he better shape up! And he did we both graduated on time we walked with our son and we’ve been happy. I’ve had 2 more kids since then and I’ve stayed at home taking care of EVERYTHING. When I say everything I mean it he never had a piece of dirty laundry, meals always waited for him, appointments made and completed. i took the kids everywhere all he had to do was work. and he did, for years he works OT and most days 16 hours a day but I recently had to start working again because life is expensive our son is now in HS and needs braces and you know just life… so my husband is now successful because of his years of hard work. he gets a remote job paid holidays off and all he does is email. i mean his job is so easy he usually plays video games while he works. but i am working my ass off. full time working i only sit for 1 hour on my lunch. and i was complaining one day about how i didn't feel like going to work i was tired because id been up with our toddler the night before and he said "i used to work 16 hour days… you can get up and work" and i lost my shit. how does this ass think he was able to do all that?! who does he think raised his childrwn and did all the sleep training and school drop offa and EVERYTHING ELSE???

if i hadn't been raising our kids I'm sure i would have a successful career too! i was on track for that! i had the best grades and i had all the want in the world to be something but i paused so i could be a good mother and wife and now i cant complain about being tired because he worked 16 hours a day 5 years ago? I AM A WHOLE ASS HUMAN TOO. not just a mom and not just a wife.

and so anyway that was a fight and then later when i got home from work i noticed like 5 baskets of laundry and he was like "can you do laundry" and i was like "motherfucker you were home all day you do some laundry"

am i fucking nuts? shouldn't he be able to do housework since hes home all damn day?!

its his turn to support me am i right? damn i feel like im asking for the world but all i am asking is for the same effort i made for him so he could get his dream job.