...so- my MIL had a live in nanny when she had two kids and doesn't let us forget that she was working so she "doesn't remember this newborn stage and couldn't enjoy it". And it's very clear her confidence and opinions are baseless when you observe her actions. She didn't know how to hold our baby. Twice his arm was pinned down the wrong way and his arm turned purple. She never touches the diapers and hands him off to us but will stand right next to us to watch us change him. She will also follow me in holding him until I have my boob out when it's time nurse him. Thank God we don't do formula right now or she would have a heyday wanting to feed him.

He's 4 months now and I know it's our fault for letting once a week visit turn into 3-4x a week. She's also super sensitive and makes everything about herself. But don't get me wrong- outside of all this she means well most of the time and we're grateful she loves her grandson so much. Lol.

But the last straw was when baby was hysterically crying bc she tried to put him down by making loud snoring sounds. LOL of course that aggravated him more so I went in to pick him up bc he threw up and she had the audacity to dig her hands under his armpits and take him away from me. And aggressively patted his back loudly saying "it's okay, grandma is here! You're so angry!!"

And I stood there in shock in the dark room.

I eventually thought of a passive way of saying I think he needs to feed and her response was "are you sure he's hungry?"

Lol. Got him back and when she handed him back to me she was like "when you're done, bring him out."

Anyways I know this story makes her sound terrible but outside of this she's nice and we have a good relationship. She's just TOO MUCH and I don't know how the heck my husband can tell her politely that they can only come once a week.

Also I noticed something about myself, I tend to gaslight myself thinking "you know this is my first time doing this, she had two kids, she probably knows better than me"

And I end up mentally detaching myself and saying yes when she insists on doing things. And then I end up with so much regret and guilt when she fails terribly because it's clear she has almost no experience or instinct!!!! 😭

It's weird. How do you all have the confidence as your baby's mom? 😭