I have two close mom friends but I haven't seen either of them in a couple weeks due to illness and my family being sick. They feel left out, but now their littles are sick and they want to see me.

I feel awful. I've been texting and communicating with them almost everyday, but they want to see me in person. I haven't seen them since like Dec 8th due to illness on my end.

On Dec 18th, I reached out to them and invited them over because it seemed like everyone in my house was finally better. The moms were sick (one with hand, foot and mouth the other with a bad cold). They weren't feeling up to it. That night I got sick and I only just recovered. I reached out to them today again to invite them over and they said they weren't available today, but they could do Saturday. I said ok, see you then! How's everyone?

Now the one little one has hand foot and mouth (and is miserable, the blisters are there but haven't scabbed over), and the other little one has a cold and is coughing like crazy and has a fever. I said I hate to be that person, but hand foot and mouth is really contagious, and we just got over the flu. Why don't we postpone until after Christmas? They said it sounds like I'm avoiding them and don't even want to be friends anymore. I told them that's not it at all. I just can't afford to get sick right now (I don't want to get sick ever but that's not realistic). They said if we keep waiting until everyone is healthy, the kids will be all grown up. I said as soon as I'm back from our trip, we should all get together, but right now I'm being super cautious!

They both say they're not contagious, but here's the thing:

1) I have super vulnerable family members and this is our first Christmas since 2019 where no one is sick or there's a pandemic. If I see my friends and get sick, I miss out on Christmas.

2) We have a vacation booked and we're leaving on the 27th. I really don't want to get sick and then get on a plane. I also don't want my 15 month old to be sick while we're on vacation in a different country.

3) They've said that I'm avoiding them and treating them like they have plague, even though I explained the first two points. I told them that I don't mean to treat them like they have the plague and I'm so sorry I made them feel like that. It's just been crappy timing.

Is there anything I can do? I feel awful but now I feel like if I see them, I keep my friends but potentially miss out on Christmas and am sock during my vacation. If I don't see them, I lose my friends but have a decent Christmas and vacation.