Warning: Super long post but I would love feedback

Recently I reached a point in my relationship where I’m just exhausted. I’m not proud to say but I have pulled away some. We recently had a baby and our relationship has just gotten worse. I’ve dealt with so much from gaslighting, uncalled for anger, being ignored for days, being cussed out and called names during arguments I stayed calm in, having a diaper thrown at me because he’s mad ( opened it to purposely get something on me ), having to move in with family because he couldn’t / didn’t want to keep a job. Him being disrespectful but still expecting me to take care of him. Being the breadwinner and taking care of us financially. Even some things i considered being disloyal….

But yesterday he broke up with me…

He broke up with me because I didn’t try to talk to him for a whole day after he was decided to ignore me.

He broke up with me because I don’t show affection anymore like I used to.

He broke up with me Because I speak up for myself when something bothers me so I’m always “tripping”.

He even says he try’s to fight the urge to be with other women for our kids sake..

He says I’m a shitty person for not checking on him for a whole day and making sure he ate although he was ignoring me when I did try….

after he left me to take care of our sick child while I was also sick because his health is more important…

After I asked him to make me tea(before he got sick) for me but he “doesn’t know how to make tea”. Then turned around and asked me to take care of him and became upset I was too busy taking care of a baby and trying to heal myself…

I know this is the best thing that could’ve happened but it hurt so bad. How do I find peace in this situation? I wanted my child to have a 2 parent home.. I wanted his dad around. We’ve been through so much I just wanted us to work out.