Am I wrong?

Question

I eat one meal a day (OMAD). I only eat at dinner time. This is something I have chosen for myself as weight management, I have gained and lost over 100 pounds several times in my life due to binge eating disorder and this is the only thing I have found that actually helps me maintain a healthy weight for an extended period of time. I do not encourage others in my life to do this, this is just what works for me personally.

My fiancé and I are on vacation in Florida. It was supposed to just be the two of us for Valentine’s Day, but his family asked if they could tag along and my boyfriend said yes without consulting me.

We go out to eat for breakfast, lunch and dinner, which is fine with me. I just order a coffee or a Diet Coke instead of ordering food. Today his mom said that I’m making everyone feel guilty by not eating and she feels like I’m fat shaming them by not eating. She said I’m ruining everyone time and that I need to eat with everyone else. She ordered me food at breakfast even though I told her I will not eat it, I haven’t shamed anyone and I’ve made it clear this is just what works for me.

I refused to eat the breakfast she ordered me and she called me ungrateful & said that I have a mental illness. My fiance did not stick up for me so I ended up crying and going back to the hotel for the rest of the day.

Am I wrong?

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She's being ridiculous. This should tell you a lot about your man not defending you.

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I don't think she should be shaming you or trying to force you to eat the food she bought. On the other hand, OMAD comes with some risks, like not meeting nutritional needs, and an increased risk for eating disorders and metabolic dysfunction. So for someone who already has an eating disorder, this might not be the best choice for you. You should talk to a therapist and a nutritionist about it. ￼

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Red flag 🚩 he did not defend you and he allowed his family to go on a couples vacation. This is just the beginning. I can almost guarantee this will he something that will happen going forward. 
Picking his family over you. No no
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Omg I’d be so annoyed if I were you!! It’s her own fault she’s so sensitive about it. I’ve done the same eating style as you to manage my weight at times as well. It just makes it that much harder when she’s trying to make you feel bad about it. You aren’t doing anything wrong at all! Also so weird she pretty much invited herself on your and your husbands trip. If anything she’s the one ruining your vacation!

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I said yes because you are still together. If your fiancé won’t stand up for you now, don’t expect it later down the road. You found what works for your body, and I hope you are healthy, a ED is nothing to mess with. 
Fuck your fiancé for letting his family come along and ruin your relationship. I would tell fiancé he needs to stay in his moms room so you can actually enjoy yourself and then go and enjoy your vacation with a delicious dinner.

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If your fiance is unwilling to support you and intercede with his mom on your behalf, then that is a big red flag. Please reconsider this relationship.

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Let them have the vacation. Go home. Be with people who love and accept you and won’t shame you. Matter of fact, I’d just leave them all in the dust. There’s so much wrong with this story. It’s a Valentines trip but his family tagged along and he just expected you to be okay with it. Nah.

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Sounds like they are calling you out on your obvious eating disorder

Am I wrong?

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