Have you learned to accept compliments?

Question

Has anyone here ever gotten over an inability to receive compliments? I'm in therapy and being told to put myself out there and work on being okay with failing or having people laugh at me because everyone has moments like that and it's okay. 
Well, anyway I love singing but don't do it outside the home because I feel im middling at best. Like yeah I can carry a tune but not good in my opinion. So I went to a karaoke night. And I sang. And got a standing ovation. 
People went out of their way to come compliment me and I just felt.... so awkward. It felt like people were making fun of me. Maybe that's because I've been made fun of my whole life for my deep, slightly nasally voice. Growing up when I sang I was told "shut the fuck up" by friends, family, anyone that heard it. So its really hard to accept any compliments on it. 
My therapist says to just keep putting myself out there but im haping to hear from others with similar experiences when it starts to feel honest when you get compliments

Answer

I know it is hard to believe that you deserve genuine compliments from people but you definitely do. I also have had to learn how to accept compliments properly. The main thing is believing that you're good enough. Work on stopping your negative self talk and don't put yourself down. My first instinct used to be to put myself down when someone gave me a compliment simply because I don't believe it about myself. It took a long time to believe that the things they are saying are actually true about me. Specifically, I was in the same boat as you with singing. When I was 16 years old, I absolutely loved singing. I was singing a song in the car with my mom, and she said, "don't quit your day job". It crushed me. After that, I didn't believe I could sing at all, and I had a hard time believing in myself at all for anything. I didn't sing again until I was 35 years old. Then I sang a song at karaoke and got a fantastic response. I sang Tyrone by Erykah Badu, and had every lady in the place cheering lol. From that day forward, I decided that the people who don't believe in me don't deserve to have their voice living in my head telling me that I am what they said I am. I have my own voice and my own beliefs about myself. Their words don't have to be how I think of me anymore. So develop your own opinions of yourself, and your own beliefs about yourself and don't let anyone destroy them ever again. ￼

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I "down play" or ignore compliments so much. It is something I am working on. Yesterday a stranger called me gorgeous and I immediately felt like I had to change the subject and avoid eye contact. It's a slow progress I'm actually more accepting from people I love as I believe it more and seems more genuine to me. I believe though if singing made you happy and happy to share it with others keep it up girl! Enjoy that spark of joy!

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“Thank you so much“ is an easy & simple way to accept a compliment. 
any negativity that comes towards you F***it ..  I don’t accept negativity, so I rarely hear it. 😂☺️ once you get to that mindset of being a bad ass, those negative comments won’t even bother you.. I promise.  I Stick with therapy & keep putting yourself out there not with just singing but everything else & speak highly over yourself ..

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With strangers especially, I just say thank you I appreciate that.  I don’t find a need to explain where I got the item that’s being complimented or tell anyone how I learned or got an  interest in whatever activity I’ve done that they are complimenting unless specifically asked

Have you learned to accept compliments?

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