I’m now having mix emotions by now with a relationship of 2 yrs now.

It’s so much I don’t even know how to start. So many people tell me different things. I seem to see it differently.

So I met this guy on tinder a little about 2 yrs ago now. All of these coming up holidays will be our second holidays together from Thanksgiving of 2023 and on. So not one holiday have we bought each other gifts like example Valentine’s Day we didn’t get each other anything. No flowers, jewelry, card, clothes nothing. I have even asked him around Christmas, his birthday his answer to me was always nothing you don’t need to get me anything/ I don’t need or want anything. He had never asked me what I wanted though.

Truth is I really don’t want or need anything. Like okay a little gift here and there would be nice but nah. He wants to travel a lot. Ever since I met him I do want to travel now. He is showing me things or doing things with me that I never had in a past relationship. It’s like he is showing me the world kinda. We do a lot of little things together. We go out to dinner, we see movies, we have gone away for long weekends, saw a comedy show which was at Radio City. I go over his house at least twice a week max. He is also a fire fighter so I have been to several events with him. His fire family is very welcoming. Meeting his family was in the wrong way. They live all over out of country, NY, Florida. He seems to keep away like he even said the black sheep of the family. (I will go back to that can give a little more in detail) He seems to be closer with his fire family than his own family.

He doesn’t do drugs or smoke, not a heavy drinker social like me. Never been arrested or done anything stupid that I am aware of. He has no kids BUT was married for about 5 -6 yrs before we met. That is where the bump in the road comes. He was married which is fine she is not involved everything is done and settled.

I just think he is not use to going back the whole relationship the gifts and showing of love. We have only slept with each other 5-6 times but it was also me I kinda wasn’t ready for a new partner and I know I needed to move past that. He seems okay with it all.

He has met my best friend and they seemed okay with each other. He met my dad for a few minutes seemed fine.

My friend says you need to ask where we stand if we are exclusive. It’s not fully out there. I am supposed to go over his house Sunday and that’s when I am going to put my foot down about asking him where we stand.

Like I said in the beginning okay a little gift here and there would be nice but nah. I like how things are with us. I can’t remember the last time I was happy like this. People say I should let him go but we have so many things planned together for this year. He wants to go to Disney or on a cruise. He also shows me so many things like he wants to become chief one day he wants to be come higher up in his career. My exs never had goals. He is pushing himself to. Takes all the fire classes, that he needs. His higher up position as well he is attending meeting after meeting. Like that’s what I want and I see him doing it.

Now…

Going back to his family I met but at his older brother funeral. His brother had died end of December. I met all his family who came over even his own parents they live in Puerto Rico, and I met him at their son’s funeral. I was with him throughout the whole time I was like his corner if he needed to get away I was there. In church he sat next to me the whole time after I told him to go sit with his family he told me no at the repass we were near each. He held my hand a few times.

I mean what our your thoughts???