Would you….

So this will be a long post! I would highly appreciate if I recieved genuine feedback. I’m going through so much stress and disappointment.

I’ve been with my bf for 11 years now! I was 19 and he was 18. I went to college and he started working with his dad. His dad owns a transmission shop!

After I graduated, I found a decent job and was working towards saving for a house. I still live with my parents and so does he. I feel really bummed that I have not gone far in life considering that I am 30 now!!

2023, was the worst year. I lost my job in October and still unemployed. Prior to that, my bf never really talked to me about moving together, marriage, or anything regarding more commitment.

For the past 2 years, he did however mention having a child. It made no sense to me that he wanted a child but not find a place to start our lives together.

He opened his own shop a year ago and even bought a new truck. Again, he doesn’t talk about marriage, moving in….but does talk about me giving him a child. I really don’t want to do things that way. I really want to live together first. Plus, we are currently 1.5 hours away from eachother so I gotta figure out if I should look for jobs closer to him or stay closer to where I’m currently at. He doesn’t give me support or guidance. I really have been pressuring him about our game plan. Like what’s the next thing?

Just last week we got into an argument because he hasn’t seen me. I told him that’s the Reason why I also want to move in with him. It’s time!! He told me he didn’t want to marry me or live with me if he didn’t see me much! Like that is the whole point so we can spend time together …I then asked him why he wants a child then? He said he doesn’t want a child. He goes back and forth and this all is starting to feel like a game. He wants a child, he then doesn’t,

So I mentioned about moving to texas and he said he won’t move. I get it! But I really would hope if he shares with me what he wants ….(btw: my friend moved to Texas and her mortgage is $1,900) I know it can differ.

His excuse is he’s trying to save money first. He’s been saying that for the past 3 years. First he got a DUI, then he got robbed, then now he’s stacking up again …it’s going to be 11 years….i don’t know if he wants me honestly