Postpartum, partner, advice needed.

My partner and I have been together for 9 years but I think I am ready to call it quits. We recently had a baby ( 8 weeks ago) and all he does is irritate me.

After having the baby I went to live with him because I needed the help and after birth I had preeclampsia. My blood pressure is still being monitored by my doctor because it is slightly elevated . I use to visit on weekends and stay at my parents in the week because it was easier to go to work (this is my home). However since moving to his place I’ve realized that I cannot stand him. He is messy and even though he helps by holding and feeding the baby I have to be doing everything else. I cook, clean, wash and care for the baby majority of the time. He is only able to help with the baby in the early mornings or evenings as he works from home. I do night shift because he has to sleep for work the next day and in the days I have the baby unless I ask for him to watch the baby for an hour so I can cook.

Also I no longer like the name we choose for our baby. After talking to him about it and letting him know I can’t even call the name he says I don’t have to call the baby’s name I can just call him papa and that he’s known persons with worst names. He continued to say the name is just unique and it will take some time getting use to.

Because of all of this I’ve gone quiet and doubt we will last. I mentioned to him that he hasn’t shown me any affection lately not even a hug and he just laughed. To date he still has not given me a hug.

I am thinking about going back home even though I will not have much help because it will only be me, my dad and brother but I think I would be more comfortable at home. I am so uncomfortable and unhappy staying with my partner but I also want him to be apart of his child’s life. I feel like I’m walking on eggshells around him because if he has the baby and the baby has been crying for a while I’d suggest that he feeds the baby or clean him or if I see him holding the baby a certain way I would let him know it’s not safe to hold the baby that way. However at this point I’m just nervous to say anything to him because he gives me bad stares when I suggest anything to him or become defensive. I’ve tried leaving him with the baby for sometime so he could soothe the baby on his own but usually he either gives me the baby or I have to go for the baby because I just can’t take the baby crying for too long. I had to shout at him to feed the baby after him telling me he is waiting 5 mins to feed the baby to teach him discipline even though the baby was crying. I need advice. Am I wrong for wanting to go back home and call it quits. Before having a baby I found him attractive but now I don’t. Any advice on what I can do?