HELP ‼️‼️Having the SAME argument, WHY

So long story short 6 years ago I confronted my husband about being on date sites he said he did it for an image boost never chatted with or slept or met with anyone ok cool

We immediately went into couples counseling have been seeing her for 5 years

Tho I noticed ever since the confrontation he’s changed. Arguments before confrontation were easy he said a few things I said a few things it was resolved. He never yelled he never raised his voice

Ever since confrontation?? The last 6 years he says the saaaaaaaaaaaaame shit in arguments does not matter how petty how tiny how big or anything the argument is he says the SAAAAAME thing. Granted we argue like 1-2 a month

But now? He’s heated he’s yelling and he’s screaming in my face talking over me

You always make me out to be the bad guy

You like to start on me on purpose

I’m never right you always have to be right

I’m always wrong woooooow can never be right

(This is new) you never take accountability or responsibility

I’m done with you!!

I can’t stand you

You never listen to me!!!

It always has to be your way!

I’m gonna leave!!!

You hear me we are DONE!!!!!

You never let me talk blah blah fucking blah!!!!!!

You always act innocent

Now I’m mad you happy you got what you wanted ???!!!!!!!!

He even mocks me during arguments

I try to calmly explain how I’m seeing things how I’m processing the situation he never wants to hear it he just gets louder and louder til he leaves the house from so much anger now keep in mind he’s heated I never am I sit calmly and just shut up eventually cos I can’t get a word in

I tried to explain to our therapist even recorded the arguments secretly for just her to listen too and he denies it all

When I bring up in therapy our arguments

He says that never happened

I never said that (cos I didn’t repeat what he said during arguments verbatim)

She’s imagining things

She never lets me speak

I have implemented everything the therapist taught us and even started watching my words my tone of voice in case something sets him off

Like one day we were talking we were fine I answered the door to get our food and was met with “oh so you’re ignoring me now” I said huh? He said you fucking heard me I was confused wait what how did we go from having fun to me being rude and ignoring you?? You think in that 30 seconds I decided hey time to be a bitch!

Question for the poll:

Is there a reason why we keep having the same arguments??

despite I keep changing myself and how I approach him

These arguments always blind side me I am always like wait wtf just happened???? I’m literally at the point I’m thinking to my self “why do you hate me so much????”