Is my situationship trying to control my toddlers?

Ive had a situationship with this guy for a year and some change. We just got back together and he claims to want to be more serious now. Which I feel like is accurate - he stopped being toxic, he doesn’t insist on sharing location, he doesn’t question me about all my friends, things like that. I have two toddlers and he offered to do something fun with us after I was sad I had to cancel their birthday party. He’s spent time with them once before but they were basically babies still, whereas now they both walk and talk and have personality and throw fits lol. We went to the park and to dinner. At first I felt like it was great, they loved him and he seemed really involved. My baby dad, his family, and my family/friends aren’t involved so I loved it. But then I started to feel like it was kind of weird. Like for example my kids carry around comfort items still and after dinner, my boyfriend was telling me that it was just a distraction for them. Or they got chicken and fries but were mostly eating the fries and he was persistently pushing them to eat the chicken. After, he told me that I should try taking them to different places and made a comment about how they trashed my back seat. I feel like that’s a bit much for someone who is basically just meeting them? But since that night (2 days) he hasn’t mentioned them or anything. I also have started to notice since then that he likes to try to have control of things, not just with me but everyone. Like he’s getting a trailer and his brother is moving in. But he said his brothers (22 yo) girlfriend (also 22) can stay nights but isn’t allowed to move in because he’s only allowing the move because he wants his brother to focus on bettering his life and his gf would interfere