Sex issue

I love my boyfriend in every way but we aren’t really sexually compatible anymore. I tried communicating what works for me such as him being more assertive during sex but his response was to shut down and now he has performance anxiety because that’s “not him”. We’ve talked it out and he wants a restart but only likes when we masturbate in front of each other and nothing else because of what I said I needed in sex (most likely). What do I do? Do I move on? I really want this to work but I don’t have enough resources on how to work with this.