School question.

My son will be 2 years old in June. We started going to this school where we go in the gross motor room then we go to the fine arts room next door. We been going for about a month and a half for about 3 hrs a week. Now my son throws tantrums like the entire time in the gross motor room. The teacher told me she recommends my son to get more services basically saying he’s slow. He’s slow and don’t wanna do gross motor because he’s being told what to do. He wants to be in charge with everything at school. The teacher basically says he trains adults to do what he wants to do. He’s slow. He barely talks. He’s a happy boy who’s very independent but also a mommy’s boy. He’s not in control of his own body and that’s huge at school. Today was a better day but all in all I struggle because I want to help him but he don’t want to do it on his own at school. Idk what to do. Part of me thinks I shouldn’t be worrying about even taking him to school right now and him basically being judged. It breaks my heart for him to be labeled this way. I didn’t drink, didn’t do anything bad for me or him during pregnancy. I’m personally upset they told me he’s slow and behind. Idk what to do. Do I get him further evaluation like they want for special education or what do I even do. I’m so conflicted and could use extra insight.