How serious does this illness sound? Need to decide if I should visit my grandma in the hospital

My grandma is 87 and had a stroke last week. She was in the hospital but is now at a rehab center and is expected to be released within the week to go home. My family is telling me I need to visit her, but I am on bedrest for my pregnancy while being a stay at home mom to my toddler (not ideal). My grandma hasn’t spoken to me in months for reasons too long to explain, but essentially it’s because I didn’t visit or call her enough (she was invited to my house almost monthly for every holiday down to St. Patrick’s day but still refused to come).

My mom got divorced when I was an infant and re-married my stepdad when I was 2 years old, but she claims she was a single mom and my grandma helped her a lot, so I’m told. I have no memories of this. In reality, my mom was a teacher and my stepdad was a police officer and my mom chose to stay at work extended hours (I had babysitters before and after school) and put us in free church summer camps so she wouldn’t have to be home with us during her school break. My mom has cried to my sister and I too many times to count about how miserable my grandma makes my mom. My grandma took over her husband’s company when he died and my stepdad worked there, and she fired him with no notice or severance pay the week before Christmas. She had a little dog who basically rotted away inside her house, living in his own filth. So many things have added up.

But, I guess when I was a teenager my grandma was neutral, but once I left for college things went downhill. She’s extremely competitive with me for some reason, judged me for becoming an engineer and then told everyone in my family that I’m having children just so I won’t have to go back to work. I feel like I don’t even know this person. My mom attacked me right after my son was born and I cut her off for our safety and my grandma brought gifts from my mom to me, knowing I wasn’t speaking to my mom. I don’t feel like she was on my side or thought kindly of me at all. She recently told me that I’m a bad mom for not putting my son (21 months) in daycare, and I need to ‘put his needs first’ by going back to work (my husband makes a ton of $ and I don’t need to work if I don’t want to) and put him in daycare.

I’m conflicted about whether I should visit her in the hospital and go to her wake and funeral whenever it happens. I think my family is coming after me to visit her because of some drama they’re all enjoying being in. If the doctor said she can go home from the rehab facility, which is a less serious place health-wise than the hospital, in one week, how bad could it be? I would have to have my husband take time off work to take me there. I don’t know what I’d say. She’s had years to see me or reach out and see my children but completely ignored me out of anger and spite.

I’m thinking of putting a care package together and having my husband drop it off. Or sending flowers. I just don’t know how much I should push myself to go, considering she was present in my life for an amount of time.