Do I have a right as a woman to know if a male could potentially harm me?

Question

I'm currently working at a summer camp and I'm working with the teens. I was asking my coordinator about the policies and was wondering have kids ever been suspended or expelled. He told me they only ever had to expell one kid from the program. It was 3 years and that a 6th grader beat the shit out of him. They had decided to let him come back last year. I thought being expelled means your done. You can't come back. He said usually it does but the parents asked. He wrote an apology letter and he was medicated and had been in therapy for the last couple years since the incident happened so after a lot of thought they let him back in. I asked who it was and he said "I'm not going to say because I don't want people to judge this kid off of what happened 3 years ago." I feel like we have a right to know. Especially me, a 5'1 woman who could get really hurt. Maybe it's because I was in a DV relationship and had an ex that almost killed me but I don't think it teaches good lessons to protect young men who are violent. They turn into adult men who are violent. I've never agreed with protecting abusive men, and rapist over victims or potentially victims. I know he's not a "man" but why are we teaching boys from a young age that if you are violent you will be protected by society?

Answer

But he’s receiving therapy and is on medication. So it sounds like this child is getting the help and support they need. And the kid has a right to privacy. 
Your concerns are valid, especially in light of your lived experience. But they don’t trump the child’s right to privacy, support, and second chances. It’s possible this job just isn’t the right fit for you.

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Im not trying to jiustify him by any means, but him getting into a fight with one kid one time doesnt mean he poses a threat to you as a counselor, especially 3 years and therapy later. I think this is your trauma triggering you.

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Your feelings are valid. I don’t want to discredit that. But think you’re making an assumption this was only done because he was male. This could have been any camper, male/female or otherwise. That part is your trauma talking imo as to your ending sentence 
Now the camper himself could have had a mental health issue. That is hard to understand unless you have experienced first hand or as a supporter of a person during a mental health crisis. I didn’t get it either until my sibling had a mental health breakdown and I did fear for my safety on a few occasions while manic. I don’t think the campers medical records need to be shared with everyone. The camp was notified and parents acknowledged the impact their child’s episode had. It was a tough call but I don’t think the camp is right/wrong for having him back. If mental health related, you’ll experience this again in your career with youth who are learning of their diagnoses too

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As a woman I would rather know who. But at the same token. In a job or anywhere else in life, no one tells you their life without them choosing to. Co workers. Neighbor. Friends. Etc. and as a minor they have sealed records. It’s their discretion to say who it is. Only ones who are supposed to tell you are Megan’s law sex offenders. Aside from that. You don’t know if your co worker or neighbor or partner you are dating who they are. No one wants to be judged by their past. Especially if they are no longer that person. Just be careful. Not sure if there are emergency protocols in place for safety. Certain alarms. Or whistles or what. They had to give you some kind of training. In this day and age of mental illness you never know what someone is capable of. Always be careful.

Do I have a right as a woman to know if a male could potentially harm me?

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