Am I overreacting? My nanny keeps pulling clothes out of the laundry to put on my 2 year old.
Okay... I feel a little like I may be overreacting but I don't know. My husband says it's not a big deal but I feel like it is?
My baby has been with us for two weeks. Several times now I've come home and my daughter will be wearing dirty clothes from the day before or something. I have asked my nanny each time to please get clean clothes from the dresser. I've shown her where the clean clothes are. I have a section of clothes for playing in.
She is white, in her 50s, and said she put my daughter in the dirty clothes because they were going outside to play and I said she has play clothes she can wear to get messy. She said "I couldn't find them" but I've shown her several times what drawer they're in. Or she says "May as well just mess up what's already dirty". I said I can understand her thinking, but please just put her in play clothes if she's going to play in the mud kitchen. She says it doesn't make sense to put her in clean clothes to get dirty. I said please just let her wear what she's wearing in the morning or put her in play clothes, but don't get stuff out of the laundry again. For example, what my daughter was wearing today had been peed in that morning. Gross!
That's another thing: I told her several times already that if my daughter has an accident, change her clothes and put the wet clothes in the washer for me to put a load on when I get home. She refuses and says "Pee is sterile. Let it dry and she can wear it later " I said no, it goes into the wash. I'll do laundry. It doesn't matter.
My daughter doesn't have accidents often but when she does, I have to be super careful about cleaning it up because my nanny won't.
My husband says shes great with everything else so let it go. He says I'm being too particular about things, but if you don't clean up pee, it smells. We already had to replace some Nugget pieces because she had an accident on there and the nanny didn't do anything about it and just let it dry for several hours.
Am I making a big deal out of nothing? She's paid $25/hr to watch one child, meals included, and she doesn't have to do housework or anything else besides keep my daughter occupied.
Edit: thank you for the replies. I'm going to talk with her tomorrow about it and tell her that if it happens again, we're going to find someone new.
Also someone made a good point here but deleted the comment. Something about how blood is also sterile but that doesn't mean you should touch it. Thank you for the support. I know I'm not going crazy!
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