Am I wrong for wanting a divorce?

Because he is just so fucking stupid sometimes. I don’t know if it’s weaponized incompetence or if he’s really just stupid. He half asses EVERYTHING. A few years back he tried to paint our entire house, which is nice, but he didn’t tape anything, didn’t take any outlet covers off, no priming. We ended up having to hire someone to fix/finish it. Today he tried to fix our ac unit, which is nice, but it would have not frozen up if he had replaced the filter like I told him to. We ended up just having to hire someone to come to fix it and he left the hvac unit door off! The tech said we are lucky my car didn’t die or kids get seriously hurt because he left a ton of exposed wires open. My daughter was down there playing this morning, thank god she didn’t get hurt. I mentioned this to him and he just laughed it off. Like are you fucking kidding me? I always have to nag him to do things.

Oh you do the dishes for me? I go downstairs, yes he did a majority of the dishes but there are dishes left out in the living room, still dishes in the sink, bottles everywhere for the milk I pumped, dishwasher not started…so I do that

Oh you do the laundry for me? He takes it to the basement, washes and dries it, but leaves it in the dryer and forgets about it. He’s never ever put the laundry away EVER in our relationship.

Oh you’ll watch the baby for me while I go shower? I come back downstairs after I’m done he’s crying for milk and my husband is too stupid to take the initiative to go into the kitchen to warm up the pumped milk I have in the fridge for him.

Oh you’ll put the groceries away? I look and everything is fucking shoved into the fridge and pantry, not organized, old ass food still in the fridge.

Oh you’ll get our daughter ready? Oh no, you’ll just get her clothes on. I have to do her teeth and hair.

He does make most of the dinners which I am grateful for but that’s it!

I have to ask for EVERYTHING and I feel (or am) like the fucking nagging wife. But if I don’t ask things won’t get fucking done by the time the day is over.

Now he gets pissed off at me for nagging and I get pissed off at him for not taking the initiative. I do so much around the house and I feel like I’m the only responsible one around here. Yes he does bring in his paycheck (as do I, we both work full time) but I’m the one who pays all the bills, researches dumbass health bills that were billed incorrectly, does all the grocery shopping, gets the kids ready for school, make sure they have everything they need. He doesn’t do any of that nor does he even fucking care. I am so fucking sick of it and I don’t even know how to bring it up to him without it being a fight. Sorry for the rant I’m just at my wits end.

Am I wrong for wanting a divorce?