Message to my unmarried self

Things I wished someone told me 10 years ago before I got married; DONT become a stay at home wife! Don’t agree to have no job. Don’t get caught up in the moments of having a “rich” husband who financially provides for you. Have your own bank account! Put some money away for rainy days! Don’t believe the “you don’t need a bank account, you can use mine anytime, or let’s get a joint bank account” because one day your husband can cut you off from the joint bank account. Guess what else? One day you will find out that he took all the money out of the account, leaving you stranded when you need to pay for something. And what would he say when you ask him about it? “Whose money is it? Mine!”. One day you would start to see your husband’s true colours and you will be stuck in an abusive unhappy marriage, get cheated on multiple times but you can’t leave because you have no money to look after your four kids on your own. If he beat you once, he will do it again. If he cheats on you once, he will do it again. “I’m sorry baby”- he isn’t sorry because he is not remorseful because of what he did. He is sorry that you found out. At a point he wouldn’t say he is sorry anymore. Don’t be bribed by the gifts that he gives you because what’s the point of enjoying luxury when you are truly unhappy and have no way out?

I wish someone told me this. I really wish. I wouldn’t have married my husband.