My husband and I had a pretty bad fight. I came home from work, he was already home. Granted I was very tired and had a horrible day but I know that’s still no excuse. He was trying to explain something to me, I didn’t understand what he was saying and tried to repeat it back to him as a question, he just looks at me and smiles like he’s about to burst out laughing and asks me why I don’t get it. Yes I know it’s just a misunderstanding but his response made me mad and I know it shouldn’t have made me mad but I was running on nothing at that point so i said “I can’t do this right now” because I know if I did it would be a fight, so I just kinda stormed off and left him there because I needed to cool down. I went into the laundry room and tried to get my clothes out for work the next day, he follows me into the laundry room, angry at how I stormed off. He closes the door behind him and stands infront of the door, blocking my way out of the room so I had no choice but to talk to him. I told him “I can’t do this right now, please let me through”. I asked this several times and he just refuses and continues with how wrong it was for me to walk away from our prior conversation. I was really not having the energy to talk or argue, so I said “please move” so I could escape the “conversation”. He did not move, so I tried to push past him and get to the door knob. Finally I stopped and said “ are you really at the point to physically stopping me from moving in my own house?!” I was yelling at that point. Finally he moves, but he follows me because he says there’s a double standard because me trying to push past him to get out of the room is that same fault as him closing doors and standing in front of them to force me to argue with him. I don’t know how else I am suppose to say I need space and to cool off before talking to him. I threatened to leave the relationship and that’s when he punched a hole through the door. This doesn’t happen a lot, he later came back and fixed the door and apologized, but I’m still scratching my head because is this all my fault? Does marriage mean you HAVE to talk to your SO even when your cranky and tired and know beforehand you have a short fuse? I’m not sure what to think