i posted a few times now. I'm very new to dating and I got a dating app.

I've been chatting with a guy and we get along and we seem to enjoy thesame things.

He's an introvert and so am I.

I asked him on a date and he agreed and we're picking a moment.

Now it's his birthday today and he didn't have plans and he asked me for mine.

I was initially busy but I had something open up.

So I informed him what happened and why it opened up. Also because it almost felt he wanted to ask to maybe do something together?

And he's like oh have a nice calm evening then.

I don't want to push to claim his time especially on his birthday..

I'm confused 😂

@Pluto

I took that into account. I don't think he expected me to be free though because I've had my kid all week and kid is going to dad's only next week. Maybe he was just being polite.

My dad is now taking my kid for the evening because I have something unexpected to do tomorrow morning that I can't take my kid to.

I'm now wondering if maybe he didn't get the hint that I'm available for plans tonight.. I did think that was straight upfront after the rest of our conversation but maybe it wasn't? Or maybe I'm not getting that he wants to spend his day in peace and not deal with a new date on his birthday? I don't want to assume either.. 🙃

I didn't know what to respond.. and I left him on read, so I'm aware I'm not communicating well either..

I think what's happening is that... I don't want to assume he's willing to do something together (today)..

and he doesn't want to assume that because I'm notifying him about my availability, that I'm available for him..

I think that's part of 2 introverts communicating with eachother 😂🤣

Update:

We have a date 😁

Still went kinda awkward I guess but I'm actually excited 😅

We're awkward together but I think we're on thesame page 👌

@Mommaof4

He actually did end up making plans, but we're seeing eachother after 🫢😊

Update :

If anyone is wondering..

We did go on a date.. and it went really well actually.

I was really nervous though..

I wasn't all that safe though, definitely do not recommend 😅 The only safety matter I took was to share my location with a friend who knew what I was doing and with who..

We went for a walk and we started at 23:30ish and he walked me home by about 3am..

He let me lead the entire thing, and seems a really great guy. Nothing really happened we just talked and walked 😅

We agreed on a second date and discussed what we'd do just not agreed on a date yet.