Anyone else’s husband have a bad case of the “don’t know how’s”?

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I swear, anytime it comes to doing things for our kids schooling, making doctors appointments, mailing something, prescriptions, paying bills, researching schools for our 5yr old special needs child, researching pre-k’s for our 3yr old, health insurance, taking our kids to literally any kind of appointment anywhere, literally ANYTHING it takes to run a household or be an adult, my husband always “doesn’t know how” or “well you already know how to do that, so you just handle it” 
You really can’t print something out?! You can’t mail something at USPS?! Can’t call and make a dental appointment for our daughter?! Or fill out the school paperwork?! 
It’s exhausting having an adult child to care for on top of our actual kids!! How do they live like this? I couldn’t handle being so helpless! This has to be weaponized incompetence. I refuse to believe there are so many over 30 men out here who are this clueless! 😩😭😭😭

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You're choosing to put up with it. Yikes.

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No,  because I married a competent, functioning adult man. Why do you tolerate this nonsense.

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Teach him or show him! It’s annoying but you can’t continue to do it by yourself!

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My husband doesn’t know how to do any of that stuff you mentioned and I completely believe it’s the fault of US mothers that because our child is a “Boy” we believe they shouldn’t learn how to make appointments, look up how to research schools, know how to use the mailing system, cook…etc. because it’s a “women’s job” and it’s what the future wife should do because she’s the one responsible of the children he will someday have”.
Honestly that’s why we as women today should teach our BOYS and girls EQUALLY.
My husband even told me how his mom didn’t let him go into the kitchen pans because “that’s a women’s responsibility!”. 
Thankfully he has always disagreed with that logic and does everything he can to help me today but he is pretty useless without me in some areas especially when it comes to getting things done that our children need.

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Why do you allow him to act like this? Lmao. Youve shown him hes allowed to act like a man child because youre acting like his mommy. Fuck that. I would never put up with that. No chance in hell

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Might as well be a single mom. You deserve better. Stop doing things for him

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Im a SAHM to 4 kids & i do all those things myself but it doesn't bother me. I have nothing else to do. Lol my husband sets up his own appointments when needed, does the handyman stuff: yard work, mechanic, plumber, etc He does everything else that i literally cannot. That's his strength & mine is to handle the bills, kids appointments, school stuff. He does clean the house, laundry, cook, help with the kids but i dont see a need for him to set up appointments or pay the bills. Im sure he could if he needed to but he just doesn't.

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I had a man child like that, I left him. I literally cannot do it all, all the time. Like yes I can because I had to, but that’s no way to live and I’m much happier with a partner who gives more than he takes and contributes. 
Heck he booked me an eye appointment because I always put my own needs off looking after the kids. He literally booked it in and told me when to go, then reminded me the day of. That’s how it should be ☺️

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Both of my partners make appointments for our son and take him. They know everything about our child that I know. They take him to school and attend all his sports practices/games. They know what clothing size he wears/shoe sizes, favorite foods, colors, etc. They are his dads and that is their responsibility. One is 38 and the other is 39. I made sure that my partners were competent adults before having a child with them. They can cook, clean, and do laundry.

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No. In fact just 2 minutes ago he called and scheduled our youngest's next well check. He even wrote down all the details so it can be added to the planner. He even offered to call and make the appointment for me that I've been forgetting to make for a few days now because I'm getting caught up with other things. And all of this is on top of him working. He literally made our child's appointment while he's on lunch and I'm handling other things.

Anyone else’s husband have a bad case of the “don’t know how’s”?

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